After working in the field of death and dying for more than 20 years, I have found the lack of helpful books for grieving people shameful. I took on the unenviable task of writing these books to finally bring clarity, concern and compassion to grieving people. These books are written in a concise way and are loaded with practical help for all those who have experienced the death of a loved one.
Surviving and Thriving: Grief Relief & Continuing Relationships, available through Amazon.com, is written for you the griever by a bereaved mother, her counselor and a spiritual healer. It is a powerful gift which will bring you hope, healing and balance. This book will become your lifeline in promoting your personal enlightenment through grief. It will help you proceed on your way in life’s most difficult journey. Nothing is more healing than knowing your loved one is with you and this book shows you the ways to create that ongoing and devoted connection. You owe it to yourself and your loved ones to take this journey toward fulfillment and peace.
The book begins: “My wonderful son, Scott, has died. I can’t imagine that he is gone forever and I will never see him, hear his voice, or feel his presence again. I can’t live my life like this. Please help me!” These words are spoken all too often. As grieving people, we want to know how to keep our loved ones in our lives. We want to know it is possible. We want to hear comforting words to assure us that the connections we had with our loved ones will continue. We call these “continuing relationships.” A field of research has developed from the need to continue this relationship. It is clinically called “continuing bonds” but for the purpose of this book, we will use the term continuing relationships. This research studies the impact of grief on those who believe their loved one is with them in some way. This can be as simple as trusting in the warmth of long-ago happenings, creating cherished memories, or as unique and compelling as knowing you hear your loved one in your everyday, present life. This book is about the continuum of eternal bonds. Reading and applying the information will help you discern where you are in this range and where you would like to be. It will help you explore your feelings about the difficult issues of grief. You will have the opportunity to understand how spirituality can be of great benefit to you, lessen your pain during the dark days of grief and form a connection with your loved one. Techniques creating this communication and awareness of how your spiritual beliefs can make your life more bearable and purposeful will be shown to you.
Here's a reader's review:
Finally a book that moves the focus and "goal of bereavement" away from the stale and ineffectual five stages of grief and "closure" to a more realistic and hopeful approach of teaching us how to create a healthy continuing relationship with our loved one(s) who has died. This very easy- to -read and understand guide is compassionately written by three women who have experienced first hand the deepest depths of despair, from losing a child to battling cancer, as well as working professionally for more than 40 years combined, in the fields of hospice, grief counseling, and leading support groups for bereaved parents. These women KNOW their subject matter and how to deliver it in a kind, heartfelt way. I would choose this book FIRST to give to anyone I know in the grief journey... from the newly bereaved to those who have lived with grief long term, no matter what religious or spiritual practice they may follow. This book is a true gem for those trying to hold onto life in the midst of loss and despair. Thank you
Loving Connections: The Healing Power of Afterdeath Communication, available through Amazon.com, tells the story of love that never dies. It is written for all those who have ever loved another with the depths of their heart. It describes the continuing connections of such love between those who have passed to the other side (the term we will use to refer to Heaven or the Spirit World) and those who have been bereaved. In this book, we describe the ways in which these loving connections support, enable, and empower grief-stricken individuals to regain emotional equilibrium, attain a sense of peace, and acquire new vitality and unexpected joy for living again. As counselors, we know that many bereaved in our culture have been afraid to discuss the experiences they have had with their deceased loved ones for fear of being ostracized or thought “crazy.” We know that many counselors, psychotherapists, and other helping professionals who work with the bereaved are not presently trained to recognize the healing value that such ongoing, loving connections can bring to those struggling with loss and grief. This book is intended to increase awareness that there can be continuing relationships with loved ones after their physical deaths. The book will provide support to the bereaved who experience or hope to experience these extraordinary connections with their loved ones. We also hope to influence the practice of counseling and psychotherapy so that these loving connections can be more appropriately understood, respected, and utilized in providing assistance to the bereaved. We will be sharing our own stories of ongoing connections with our parents after their deaths. We will also share, in their own words, several illustrative stories of connections with loved ones from bereaved mothers, fathers, wives, husbands, children, grandchildren, siblings, and friends. The tremendous healing and guiding value of these loving connections will become clear as the stories unfold.
Here's a Reader's Review Finally, validation for those of us who have never believed in coincidence – and who believe the bonds of love transcend all boundaries. So well written, it was hard to put down. It brings the topic out of the dark ages and into the twenty-first century. A must read for anyone who has lost someone they truly love. And Another: We are not crazy when we "hear" from our loved ones, and this book gives the reader the confidence to know it. The stories related are from real people, telling real incidents of connections from their loved ones after their death. This book is a positive affirmation that love never dies, and that the connections with a loved one are not a coincidence. Well-written!